Q: I am an 18-year old girl. My father is a business tycoon and also into politics, so whenever there is a political party or business gathering, he always takes me with him, and I have to sit with oldies. I am just sick of it now. I tried a lot to convince him but he doesn't listen and keeps insisting that I go with him because he thinks it is beneficial for me. How can I avoid these parties without hurting my dad's feelings? Please help.
Meharavar
A: Don't get too stressed out Meharavar. Your father is only asking you to accompany him because he feels that it will be a great learning experience for you. If you think from his point of view, attending these parties will be a different kind of education for you, one that will prepare you for practical life ahead. But if you feel that striking a conversation with oldies is not your cup of tea, then you can convey this to your
dad in a peaceful manner without creating any tantrums. Tell him that every individual has the right to spend his/her time doing what they like to do. Convince him that you could spend your time pursuing your studies or doing something constructive rather than socialising with people who are beyond your age bracket. I am sure your dad will eventually realise that business and politics are not your field of interest.
Q: I am 19 years old and I have fallen in love with a celebrity. At the young and impressionable age of 15, I gave away my heart to him. Initially I thought it was a crush, but with the passage of time I realised it was more than just an infatuation. I know he cannot be mine, but I love him so dearly and want him to be a part of my life. Please help me out of this dilemma. Celebrity Fan
A: Whoops! You gave your heart to the wrong person! But don't worry dear; there are tons of teenage girls and boys riding the same boat. We've all grown up idolising rock stars and pop sensations. I know you must be feeling that you are drowning in the sea of love and that life seems meaningless. But believe me! This is just a momentary phase, and sooner or later you will learn to move on. Let's accept it girl! You and I know the reality. You can't wait for him to stumble upon you one day and fall in love with you at first sight. Miracles like that occur only in fairytales. Life is anything but a fairytale and the sooner we realise it, the better it is. Falling in love with a celebrity is natural, but expecting him to reciprocate your love is mere folly. You just need to divert your attention to other aspects of life. Concentrate on your studies since this is the time to focus on your future so you can become something in life. Believe me, love is a delusion and wasting away your adolescence whining over a total stranger will lead you nowhere.
Q: My boyfriend and best friend hate each other. I don't want to lose either of them. What should I do? Please help me. Kiran
A: Your best friend is your confidante and a mirror to your thoughts. Naturally, your boyfriend is jealous and is looking for a privileged space that's solely his in your life. Tell him he is only causing stress by his attitude and that instead of being selfish (which will take a toll on the relationship) by trying to cut her out, he should be happy you're surrounded by those who care for you. Tell him the friendship is non-threatening and non-negotiable. Conversely, your friend is probably fighting for your affections. You need to firmly tell her that while you appreciate her concern, the dynamic has to change. He's not there to replace her, but to fill a void in your life that she can't. She should be happy at knowing that he makes you happy.
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Meharavar
A: Don't get too stressed out Meharavar. Your father is only asking you to accompany him because he feels that it will be a great learning experience for you. If you think from his point of view, attending these parties will be a different kind of education for you, one that will prepare you for practical life ahead. But if you feel that striking a conversation with oldies is not your cup of tea, then you can convey this to your
dad in a peaceful manner without creating any tantrums. Tell him that every individual has the right to spend his/her time doing what they like to do. Convince him that you could spend your time pursuing your studies or doing something constructive rather than socialising with people who are beyond your age bracket. I am sure your dad will eventually realise that business and politics are not your field of interest.Q: I am 19 years old and I have fallen in love with a celebrity. At the young and impressionable age of 15, I gave away my heart to him. Initially I thought it was a crush, but with the passage of time I realised it was more than just an infatuation. I know he cannot be mine, but I love him so dearly and want him to be a part of my life. Please help me out of this dilemma. Celebrity Fan
A: Whoops! You gave your heart to the wrong person! But don't worry dear; there are tons of teenage girls and boys riding the same boat. We've all grown up idolising rock stars and pop sensations. I know you must be feeling that you are drowning in the sea of love and that life seems meaningless. But believe me! This is just a momentary phase, and sooner or later you will learn to move on. Let's accept it girl! You and I know the reality. You can't wait for him to stumble upon you one day and fall in love with you at first sight. Miracles like that occur only in fairytales. Life is anything but a fairytale and the sooner we realise it, the better it is. Falling in love with a celebrity is natural, but expecting him to reciprocate your love is mere folly. You just need to divert your attention to other aspects of life. Concentrate on your studies since this is the time to focus on your future so you can become something in life. Believe me, love is a delusion and wasting away your adolescence whining over a total stranger will lead you nowhere.
Q: My boyfriend and best friend hate each other. I don't want to lose either of them. What should I do? Please help me. Kiran
A: Your best friend is your confidante and a mirror to your thoughts. Naturally, your boyfriend is jealous and is looking for a privileged space that's solely his in your life. Tell him he is only causing stress by his attitude and that instead of being selfish (which will take a toll on the relationship) by trying to cut her out, he should be happy you're surrounded by those who care for you. Tell him the friendship is non-threatening and non-negotiable. Conversely, your friend is probably fighting for your affections. You need to firmly tell her that while you appreciate her concern, the dynamic has to change. He's not there to replace her, but to fill a void in your life that she can't. She should be happy at knowing that he makes you happy.
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